November 2015 Connection


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Issue No. 1811

Venice, FL

November 2015


Sundays at UUCOV

Nov 1 Sunday Service  begins at 10:00a.m. Youth Religious Education 10:00am (starts in the Sanctuary). Sunday Adult RE begins at 9:00am, Asta Linder House Room A. Nov 8 begins two Services, 9:30 and 11:00am. Youth Religious Education at 9:30am, Forums 9:30am and Adult RE at 11:00am, in Asta Linder House Room A.

Sunday Services: Nov 1 10:00am, Nov 8 9:30 & 11:00am

November 1, 2015: "Kissing the Boo Boo"

Rev. Freida Gillespie. As adults we can be so reluctant to ask for help. We imagine that we should be self-contained. But no one thrives without others to care for us and to care for. The more we let others help the more we feel connected during times of hardship whether small or large. Sometimes others see the wounds in us that we don't see. Without them we wouldn't look deeply enough to be free of that pain.

November 8, 2015: "Unbroken"

Rev. Khleber Van Zandt. American Olympian Louis Zamperini's story of survival in Japanese POW camps in World War II sounds like the stuff of movies. But the reality of that story honors all our veterans.

November 15, 2015: "Taking the Long Way"

Rev. Khleber Van Zandt. As part of our "Next Steps" weekend we'll talk this Sunday, not only about where we want to go and how we get there, but about how we engage the conversation about our future as a congregation.

November 22, 2015: "Needing to Be Kneaded"

Rev. Khleber Van Zandt. Bread Communion. The process of making bread requires that dough be left alone to rise, then beaten and broken before being left to rise again - a loaf of bread needs to be kneaded in order to reach its full potential.

November 29, 2015: Service

To be announced.


Sunday Forums: Nov 1 9:00am, Nov 8 9:30am, Asta Linder House

November 1, 2015: "Poetry"

9:00 Forum in Asta Linder House Room A. Poets and poetry lovers of UUCOV: Come share your poems at this forum. Contact Dawn Spits if you'd like to participate. 941-451-8329 or

November 8, 2015: Forum "Fat Chance in a Slim World"

Dr. Martin Lerner, the founder and executive director of the Milestones in Recovery Eating Disorders Program located in Cooper City, Florida, will speak on the science of food addiction. Dr. Lerner is a graduate of Nova Southeastern University and a licensed and board certified clinical psychologist who has specialized in the treatment of eating disorders since 1980.

November 15, 2015: "Alcoholics Anonymous"

Brad Jenkins will speak about Alcoholics Anonymous.

November 22, 2015: "Al-Anon"

Terry Anne Arcoraci. Ms. Arcorarci will share her experience, strength and hope on the topic of Alcoholism and its effects on the entire family. Other guests will briefly explain the help they have personally received and will have pamphlets and meeting schedules to share with the congregation.

November 29, 2015: No Forum Today

Adult Religious Education: Nov 8 11:00am, Asta Linder House

November 1, 2015: No Adult RE Today

November 8, 2015: "Islam"

The first in a Great Courses series of DVD lectures on Islam; viewings will be followed by Bonnie Norton leading group discussion. I. Islam, the world's 2nd largest religion, is growing fast; it is practiced in 56 countries representing a wide diversity of cultures.

November 15, 2015: "Islam"

Learn the core beliefs, the â??Five Pillarsâ?, of Islam.

November 22, 2015: "Islam"

Mohammed, the Prophet and Statesman, has the dual role of being Godâ??s messenger and the perfect living model.

November 29, 2015: "Islam"

Koranic world views.

Special Offering

November 15, 2015: ALSO Out Youth

ALSO Out Youth provides peer support services, social activities, educational programs and workshops, advocacy, and referrals for lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, intersex, and questioning youth ages 13 to 21, enhancing self-esteem and promoting healthy dialogue. Checks should be made out to UUCOV with "Also Out" in the memo line.

Minister's Corner

The Times They Are A’Changin’

Rev. Khleber Van Zandt

glasses-books 250x137If you’ve wandered into our Sanctuary in the last couple of weeks, you might have noticed that some changes have taken place. Bigger aisles, more space in the rear of the room, easier access all around. What gives?

No, the chairs haven’t been carried off to the landfill. They have been neatly arranged in the garage area of Asta Linder House in order to facilitate the Forums and Adult RE presentations on Sunday mornings and other times during the week.

This is a big change from simply assuming we can use the Sanctuary for all our larger gatherings. We used to be able to do that, back when we were a smaller congregation and had fewer events and programs competing for space. However, as a poet named Dylan once said, “the times they are a’changin’.” (If you’re wondering, it was Bob Dylan, not Dylan Thomas).

On November 8th, we begin two-service Sundays once again. This year, we’ve squeezed the service times closer together – at 9:30 and 11am - especially to address the desire of so many folks to see more of their tried and true friends on Sundays. But that means we need to hold Forums and other adult classes somewhere besides the Sanctuary.

In years past, I understand the Waters Hall living room had been the site of some Forums. In conversation with the groups that currently use that space, it became obvious that it would be quite the imposition to have to rearrange 35 or 40 chairs and associated A/V equipment each Sunday for a one- or two-hour program. A better solution was to set up the Asta Linder garage with classroom seating and A/V equipment that could be left in place over an extended period. (Not to worry – the garage space can be easily rearranged for Family Promise or any other program or event that requires a different setup.)

Change can be hard. I imagine people coming into the Sanctuary each week for the next several months expecting to attend a Forum and finding themselves in the midst of a worship service. I imagine the presenters trying to facilitate a Forum or Adult RE presentation having trouble with the space or with the A/V setup in Asta Linder. I imagine the kids in their Asta Linder rooms being too loud for the Forum people in the garage; and I imagine the Forum people being too loud for the kids.

Such are the space issues we face as we look toward the future of our congregation. To increase our space is necessarily an expensive and perhaps drastic step to take. To stick with the space we have may put a pinch on many of our cherished assumptions about which rooms we use for what.

We’ll get through this. But we’ll get through it best if we open our hearts, share the burdens, and face it together.

See you somewhere on campus,



How to Contact Us

Mailing Address: UUCOV
1971 Pinebrook Road
Venice, Fl 34292-1563


Minister: Rev. Khleber Van Zandt V
Phone: 314-223-0551
Office hours: Monday, Tuesday, Thursday 10:00am-1:00pm
Email or phone anytime to meet at a different time.

Office Administration: Nan Kritzler
Phone: 941-485-2105
Office hours: Monday - Friday 10:00am -Noon

Music Director: Steve Hanson
Phone: 630-346-1842

From the Board

Next Steps Weekend

As an aid to achieving UUCOV’s goals and aspirations, Mark Ewert, A UUA consultant, will be with us for the weekend to assess our strengths, challenges, risks and opportunities.

Mark will meet with our minister and Board on Friday evening; Saturday, he will spend an hour each with a variety of committees (a detailed schedule to follow); and after each Sunday service, he will briefly address the congregation with a summary of his observations and evaluation.

To be most beneficial, the Board asks for total openness and honesty, the good and the bad, your true thoughts and ideas, hopes and aspirations as you meet or talk with Mark.

Congregational Life

Don’t Miss This

MerryOldSantaBuy a gift for yourself or another and a portion of every purchase goes to UUCOV at this Arts and Crafts Sale. For 1/2 hour after service on Nov. 22 & 29 and Dec. 6 & 13, coffee and tea will be served in Waters Hall while you enjoy the selections and choose your purchase.

Should you wish your own art or craftwork to be available (a portion of sale price is for UUCOV) contact Marilyn Amick, 941-378-4644 or  by Nov.15 )

Roy Zimmerman Returns!

RoyZimmermanRoy Zimmerman will be bringing back his humor and music to UUCOV on Sunday, November 15th at 4:00 PM. Roy Zimmerman sings satirical songs - original songs about class warfare, creationism, same-sex marriage, guns, marijuana, abstinence, ignorance, war and greed. He has entertained us many years in the past and we have no doubt will continue to do so.

To find out more about Roy and his music, visit his website at Tickets are $18 or what you can pay, and can be purchased at the door.

Roy will again join us at the Sunday services as our guest musician.


turk2UUCOV's members, friends and family will be celebrating Thanksgiving with a delicious turkey and gravy dinner provided by Mike's Affordable Caterers. UUCOV members will provide the fixins' such as stuffing, mashed potatoes, veggies, dessert, and whatever other delectable dishes we can come up with.

Dinner will be held at the Jewish Congregation of Venice on Thursday, November 26th (Thanksgiving Day) starting at 1 p.m. Charge is $8.00 per person. A signup sheet will be available on the lanai starting Sunday, November 1st. Any questions should be directed to Eileen Leapley, 941-525-4328.

Are You Dealing with a Challenging Life Event?

pink lotus1A twice-monthly peer support group for members/friends going through a major life event will begin on Friday, November 13. Meeting at Asta Linder House on the 2nd and 4th Fridays every month, October – April, each meeting will have 2 leaders. Whether the issue is a health crisis, a serious issue with or of an adult child or grandchild, the death of a spouse,etc., the support group offers a safe place to talk about your experience, share concerns and feelings, explore ways of coping and receive support, ideas, and assistance. Any questions? Call any of the leaders: Leie Carmody (941-445-4859), Peggy Drogosch (941-497-6705), Donna DeMuth (207-650-2875), Bill Harrison (941-244-0151), Linda Kabo (978-434-1598). Look for the Support Group brochure on the lanai.

If you “Care”, save this date

Group1If you have an interest in doing things for other people within our congregation when they are in need of personal support, assistance or just an extra dose of friendship, please join the Caring Committee as we "formalize" our plans and activities for 2015-16. We’ll meet on Dec. 3, 3-5pm, in Waters Hall.

Also on the agenda will be discussion of "CONFIDENTIALITY" -- How we honor the wishes of each other, as we "SHOW HOW WE CARE". Potential and new members of UUCOV are also welcome.

Calling All Musicians!

musicDo you love music, like to play, perhaps like to perform? Looking for a new activity at UUCOV?? The Music Committee is interested in knowing who might like to participate in monthly drop-in sessions where we could share our music with one another, meet other music lovers, perhaps find others to perform with - at least informally. If this interests you, please let Annette Ballou know of your interest at  

Sign up for Pathways to Membership Class…

... at the Sunday Welcome Table. The two-session class (Nov 12 & 19 in Waters Hall, 1:00 - 4:00pm) is both informative and fun and a great place to learn about UU and make some new friends as we explore together. Class size is limited, so sign up is necessary. Any questions contact Pat Schwing at  or Linda Underwood at  

Solar Panel Update

solar-panel1The solar panels have been installed and look great on the Sanctuary roof. That is the good news. The not so good news is we are having a bit of a delay in getting hooked up to the FPL grid so we are not yet operational. The Board is very involved in resolving this issue and we expect resolution soon. We will advise you when we are 100% operational.

A New Policy for ‘Letters to the Editor’

FeatherPenWe welcome hearing from you, and – when you write – we want your message, your concern, your praise, your grievance to get read. Letters to the Editor comes at the close of Connection. Be assured, short and simple keeps more people reading than complex and flowery. To that end, a new policy: Letters are to be a maximum of 325 words. (If that feels undoable, contact the editor who will do her best to help shorten without losing meaning or impact.)

Lifespan Education

From our Director of Lifespan Religious Education, Jaye Williams

WilliamsJaye150During this month of heightened awareness toward gratitude, I wanted to share that I am extremely grateful to be a part of the UUCOV staff. What a welcome I have received! From the interesting, bright and thoughtful children in our YRE program, to the women who have held together the YRE program during transition, to the energetic, enthusiastic and passionate congregants heading up committees and providing programming to our adults, I am impressed and in awe. I look forward to working with and for all of you through lifespan religious education.

Interest Groups

Book GroupBook Club
The next two book club meeting will be on Thursdays, Nov 12 and Dec 10 at 1:30 in the Asta Linder house. November’s book is Sonia Sotomayor's My Beloved World available in print and Kindle. Everyone is invited to attend.

14Mindfulness Meditation
Monk San Returns! Monk San will return to lead our mindfulness meditation group the first two Wednesdays of each month, beginning Nov 4. We meet in Waters Hall from 6-7:30pm. San is a Buddhist monk from Sri Lanka now living in Sarasota. He also works as a caregiver and is training to become a nurse, giving him a unique perspective on living the spiritual life in the world. Linda Kabo will continue to lead the group on the remaining Wednesdays of each month.

Socrates-webSocrates Café
Socrates Cafe are gatherings around the world where people from different backgrounds get together and exchange thoughtful ideas and experiences while embracing the central theme of Socratizing; the idea that we learn more when we question and question with others. All UUCOV members, friends, and neighbors who enjoy lively discussions are invited to participate. Socrates Cafe meets every third Wednesday of the month in Waters Hall at 1:00pm.

platocolorPlato's Circle
Plato’s Circle is a discussion group that meets the first Wednesday of the month at 1:00pm in the Asta Linder House to address a specific topic; this month the issue is the job-eradicating effect that technology is having and will continue to have and its expansion of existing financial inequality in the U.S. Dick Smith will introduce the topic with some information from and responses to Martin Ford’s “Rise of the Robot”. Everyone is welcome to attend.

Letters to the Editor

Letters to the Editor

Comments, kudos, questions, concerns, musings - all welcome. Send yours to

A Cautionary Tale (by Anonymous)

We have a Welcome table; our Sunday guests wear Welcome nametags. We advise: Be sure to look for them and extend a warm welcome. And yet...sometimes...


Dear Editor,
About four months after moving alone to Venice, I ventured to services at UUCOV. As a visitor, I wore a stick-on name tag. Entering the sanctuary I was handed a pamphlet and found a seat. I liked the service. They announced that coffee would be served at Waters Hall.

I followed a group of people and got my coffee. There was a room with tables, chairs and people. I took a seat at an empty table and hugged my coffee. I was sure I had taken an invisible pill. I heard a conversation that mentioned * state. Like a puppy dog wanting to be petted, I went to the table and bubbled "I'm from * state also. What city are you from?" They replied "Cake Town". (That's what we called an affluent city.) I said "I'm from nearby "Blue Collar Town". The chorus of four responded with "eeew" and returned to their conversation. Tail tucked between my legs, I returned to my coffee cup vowing to never come back.

As I was finishing my coffee, two women sat down and said "Hello". They welcomed me and introduced themselves. They told me some of the history of UUCOV and engaged me in conversation. If not for Enid and friend, I would not have returned to UUCOV.

*Names of the state and cities were omitted/changed to protect the guilty.

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UUCOV Mission and Covenant

Our mission is to build a welcoming and diverse community which encourages growth of the human spirit, the free and responsible search for truth and meaning, and active participation in social and community issues.

In a climate of joy, goodwill and trust this congregation covenants

  • to treat one another with kindness and respect,
  • to listen with openness and acceptance,
  • to support and protect the environment of which we are all a part,
  • to solve problems responsibly as we grow and change,
  • to encourage learning and nurture the growth of diverse human spirits, and
  • to dedicate time, talent and re- sources in an effort to make a difference in local and world communities.

In the spirit of our free religious heritage, we promise these to one another.


UU Principles

We, the member congregations of the Unitarian Universalist Association, covenant to affirm and promote:

  • The inherent worth and dignity of every person;
  • Justice, equity and compassion in human relations;
  • Acceptance of one another and encouragement to spiritual growth in our congregations;
  • A free and responsible search for truth and meaning;
  • The right of conscience and the use of the democratic process within our congregations and in society at large;
  • The goal of world community with peace, liberty, and justice for all;
  • Respect for the interdependent web of all existence of which we are a part.

UU Sources

The Living Tradition we share draws from many sources:

  • Direct experience of that transcending mystery and wonder, affirmed in all cultures, which moves us to a renewal of spirit and an openness to the forces that create and uphold life;
  • Words and deeds of prophetic women and men which challenge us to confront powers and structures of evil with justice, compassion, and the transforming power of love;
  • Wisdom from the world's religions which inspires us in our ethical and spiritual life;
  • Jewish and Christian teachings which call us to respond to God's love by loving our neighbors as ourselves;
  • Humanist teachings which counsel us to heed the guidance of reason and the results of science, and warn us against idolatries of the mind and spirit.
  • Spiritual teachings of Earth-centered traditions which celebrate the sacred circle of life and instruct us to live in harmony with the rhythms of nature.

Grateful for the religious pluralism which enriches and ennobles our faith, we are inspired to deepen our understanding and expand our vision. As free congregations we enter into this covenant, promising to one another our mutual trust and support.


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